Do you
often wonder, “What’s wrong with me?” Have you
set your goals as you’ve been taught, only to
fall short time and time again? Are you ready
to hear the truth…finally? I’ve been where you
are. I used to set world class goals, but
always failed to achieve them. Then I finally
learned what I was doing wrong! I wasn’t
engaging the most powerful goal getting tool I
owned…my unconscious mind.
So many
people set goals that focus on what they do not
want. For example, ‘I don’t want to be broke,’
or ‘I don’t want to be fat’ are two very common
goals. In the Mary Kay world, Directors may
say, “I don’t want to miss production.” And
Consultants may focus on, “I don’t want to
fail.” All Independent Beauty Consultants,
regardless of their position, may feel the same
thing, “I don’t want to experience rejection,”
which can paralyze your business.
All
this focusing on what you don’t want feeds you
mind exactly that. Your unconscious brain is
extremely powerful, but it does not understand
negative words. So when you say, “I don’t want
to miss production,” your unconscious mind hears
“I ___ want to miss production.” And that is
often what happens as your brain works to find
what it thinks you want…missing production.
Whatever you focus on, you energize and
attract. Even more, you consciously want to
make production, so it becomes a struggle
between the conscious and unconscious brain in
terms of this goal.
Now to
address the thought “I don’t want to experience
rejection.” You may think you’re safe with this
one since the brain hears, “I ____ want to
experience rejection.” But your brain also
works to keep you safe – both physically and
emotionally safe. So if you fear “rejection”
and think that is what you will get by going out
and warm chattering or sharing the opportunity
with Mary Kay, then your brain will actually
help you avoid rejection – the opposite of your
goal. And you won’t make those calls to follow
up with your leads, or talk to women you
encounter during the day, but you will focus on
doing something else – like laundry, organizing,
or even just watching TV.
With
all of this said, there may be some people out
there wondering, “Who writes their goals with
negative words?” I was asked this before and
was so grateful for the question. Truth is,
most people do write their goals properly
– “I want to weigh 135” versus “I don’t want to
be fat.” My question in response is, “What is
it you are thinking?” Maybe you don’t write
your goals with negatives, but if you’re
thinking it then you might as well not write
them at all. The only thing that really matters
is how you hold the goal in your mind, and it
has to be held in a positive light. It’s
important to believe you can achieve.
So let
go of the negative beliefs, work on erasing the
fears, and you will be better equipped to
achieve your goals and dreams. The next step is
action…you cannot achieve anything if you do not
take the steps that are required to get you
where you want to go.
Here’s
to your journey!
Sean
Smith
